Fake friends or True friend (knowing the difference)
88A true friend is very difficult to find in this society today. Every body can say that a person is thier friend, but not indentifying if that person is a true or a fake friend at all. As an fact, I want to talk about fake friends and true friend! The difference between both of them. First, I want to talk about fake friends.
1. Fake friends always come expect a person to come visit, call and see about them, but they don't want to give in the same effort. They think that's it okay not to give their effort to put back into the friendship at all, which drains a person out. Whenever a person stops seeing and calling them! Due to their blind eyes in what they are doing, they have the nerve enough to get mad and ask questions- why is that person not giving them calls and visiting! Too, Fake friends are never there whenever one needs them the most. This means they got themselves and other objectives on their minds.This also means they don't put any type of effort to see if you are okay, or if one is down.
2.Fake friends speak words to a person who they say is their friend - " This is my friend! I really like him or her ! This is my homeboy or home girl! That's my boy, or that's my girl! " They say such things to put up a front in the presence of other people, but their actions reveal something else. Truely, their actions reveal that they don't that person to be their friend!Also in the presence of other people, they will laugh and talk about you in your face. This is a sign these types of fake friends are not true! Too, fake friends always have a negative judgemental attitude! One cannot tell them about their dreams and ablities that they want to accomplish! They are so quick to laugh and criticicize a person in their presence in your face saying- " you can't do that! That's impossible!" They are always trying to talk a person out of their dreams. Sometimes, one makes their dream as a reality! They are the same people laughing and smiliing in your face saying - "That's my boy! That's my friend!He did it! He's talented!"
3. This is the one I cannot stand most of all. Fake friends always go tell other people's business,but they don't want others to tell their business. They always going around gossip to other peoples' secrets! However, one can tell that fake friend that, " you promise me that you won't tell a soul about this!" The common statement a fake friend or more will say that "I promise not to tell a soul, which you can tell me anything!" As soon as that fake friend gets out of that person's presence, he or she has told other people about their business. Those people who was told; they always say these things - " I heard this about you! Is it true!? That's what I heard about you! Did that happen to you!? Do you have this? Are you this?" This something that fake friends love to do! This shows that fake friend couldn't keep a promise.
4.Fake friends don't keep their word! They always leave another person in the dark about something! This means that they don't call to say that plans have changed, or they don't call to say something has happened! This can usually more than one day! A lot of them have the mindset -" I don't have to keep my word to others, but nobody will not do it to me!" When someone does the same thing to them. They want to get mad about it! I say this- one gets what he or she deserves!
I want to say this about fake friends! By any means that they tell any secrets or personal things about you to other people! However, they have abused your inner-circle, which means you have let them in about who you are! Forgive them, but if they want another chance, make them work and earn your trust ! Most likely, they will do it again. I want to talk about a true friend!
A true friend can be trusted with the deep things about yourself! A true friend won't tell your secrets and personal business to other people. That true friend always keeps their promise to keep your secrets and personal safe! That true friend never judges you in a negative when telling something deep about yourself. That true friend will always listen to what you have to say! Too, A true friend have a bond so strong with the other person, which they don't abuse their inner-circles with each other.
A true friend is always there whenver you need them the most during rough times! A true friend always make effort call you! A true friend always tend to see if you are okay! A true friend always shows that he or she cares about you! This is what one calls true sacrifice! True friends don't abuse the word sacrifice at all.
A true friend always want to be a blessing in their your life, which he or she is never looking to give him or her a hard time. A true friend always desire to be a true blessing, which he or she is always looking for ways to bless him or her. Too, that person is doing the same for him. A true friend always is excited when he or she sees you, which he or she enjoys your presence! True friends love to be a blessing to each other, not a burden to each other.
A true friend always believes in your dreams and talents ! A true friend always get excited when something good has happened in your life! A true friend always believes in you! A true friend always wants the best to happen in your life, not the worst! They will always lift you up, not bring you down!
IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS CONCERNING YOUR SITUATIONS WITH FAKE FRIENDS OR CAN'T TELL IF THE PERSON IS A FAKE OUR NOT!Not KNOWING WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR SO-CALLED FRIEND! PLEASE COME VISIT TO MY BLOG- self-help enrichment at http://enlightened32.blogspot.com/. Go to contact category on my blog!, and please leave me a message there,and I can get to your questions much faster and quicker!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I take friendships seriously because most people take friendships for granted in which I don't what is the reason for that cause
thank you for writing this!! I had been asking myself some questions about some "friends" recently.
You are so welcome if you have any thing to ask me! Come visit me at my blogger site on the page, and leave me an email and I will help you with any question. I have a problem with fake friends myself.
This was a great hub.
Keep up the great work,
Thanks for your comment! I take this subject to heart.
Great read. Completely agree with your view.
Yeah, I have to agree, very good. Keep up the great work, I'll memorize everything and fight back to find the true meaning of "Friends". =)
Thanks hey wife! I have always had a strong belief and fondation on friendships! Some people don't think about what the true meaning of friendship is! Most of them just look over that word!
Thanks Lord Venjix,
That's one thing that I don't play about is friendships! Every person can be an acquantance, but my belief not ever person qualifies under the catagory of the true friends! Thanks again. Hope to hear from you!
Thanks! The stuff is absolutely terrific for someone who has noticed that something is wrong but couldn't find the reason because of time spent together.. enlightening.
Yes I really thank you for saying these kind words because there a lot of people who have fake friends in their lives! Not to many people take the word friendship seriously v. Thanks again!
Hey Dreamer, on top of me, odd how fitting the name is, do you think? Wish I could comment but my last year of school was at the age of 14 for good. Regardless, even if not, I tend to get engrossed in a topic and well inspiring Hub like this one, so be a friend and surely not allow None to find me lol
2 things okay 3 maybe more but for now 1&2 = anyone who is a dreamer and who is obviously a true friend, not just someone who writes about them, well let's say, I'm sold, a hubber I am pleased to follow and support, and clearly can learn much from
And 3 it's the hub, can't help it-thumbs up and about to share it
thank you
None other than Kimberly (sorry had to be done)[and a nasty vampire named prey] (last year lyricsingray)
Have a great weekend
Your hub is on point.
Once you can understand and get a real feel on your circle of friends,it'll probably grow smaller.
But you'll have peace of mind and clarity once all is said and done.
Thanks for sharing.
Stay Blessed
I can really relate to this. cause i have true friends and fake friends but its hard for me to let a fake friend go and its hard for me to trust people so vice versa either way i feel like i get hurt cause of he say she say stuff
This helped a lot because just a few minutes ago a so called friend of mine called me a bitch just because i wouldn't give her and some other girl the answers to a school worksheet she also told other people around her that i wouldn't share my answers. The only reason why I didn't want to share is because the girl that wanted the answers always cheats and that my 'friend' is so stupid and calls me a bitch. x-x yeah it sucks. If there's any response to this, i'd really like it because now I am done talking to her but still don't know what I should do.
Thanks emari and whoah! I can relate to these matters also! In today's world it's sort of difficult to find a true friend, but they are still out there! keep believing and be focused !
:D thanks for the reply. Though now im having a little more trouble because she keeps trying to talk to me as if nothing happens. :(
I really enjoyed this post cause I am going through a difficult situation right now dealing with my best friend. I truly care for her and make the effort to call and text her to check on her but she never puts for the same effort in return. And I just feel like our friendship is falling apart and at times I blame myself for the problems that we have in our friendship.
well i have had a problem now with a friend i have and this has cleared it up for me completely... lets just say she'll be an aquiantance from now on... she doesn't gossip or anything but never answers my texts. She'll answer my phone calls but will never really talk. there was a time where i would be like, its almost 6pm she'll call after she gets out of work, and the phone would ring... after some arguments because she has changed on me on a 180 degree level, we have become distant and there are things she lies to me about because i can see and feel it... i am only 25 and i don't need someone like that in my life... thanx for making it so clear, now i know she is out of my personal life for good :)
This was very well written! None of us are perfect so if your friend does change after you talk to them about it then FORGIVE but if they don't change or they're the type of friends you can't talk to about this kind of thing to cause their hostile or w.e then FORGET them.
True. I got a fake friend and she pisses me off. Done with her.
the penny finally dropped, I have had a fake freind for many years,me doing all the chasing an getting nothink in return , I finally backed off from this freind , and quess what , I dont even miss her. so thankyou
2 of my friends are always all lovey dovey with there crushes and my other friend is always somewhere else
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Hey B, I can really feel you on this one because I have been through the same thing! Fake friends can act that way towards people, which they have any remorses for any people at all! Most of them don't even give a care at all! When a person does that, it's time to move on! I just got out of a previous friendship that drained the mess out of me!
@ And cli, I feel the same way about the previous friendship, once a person mess up, they will get forgiveness, but they will earn it from the sweat of their brow! Sometimes when most of us cut of friendship like that, it will lift a burden off of you!
@ Clio, you are so welcome!
Wow I loved this article. I'm tired of being taken for granted, being the listening ear, going out of way to drive to meet someone, and never getting the same in return. I'm so fed up with it all, now I know that true friendship is a rare but beautiful blessing. I can't say I've ever received it on a deep level, and I'm trying my best to be a true friend too. It's hard though when people who are your so called friends act so shady. I'm ready to cut them out of my life or minimize the contact, I think this can apply to family members as well.
i like this topic...
I'm still not sure if my friend is fake or not. When i ask him to hang out he says he's always busy.He might be exited for something, for example watching a movie with his friends, but when he finds out i'm joining, he makes up lame excsuses like, "i don't like movies",or "this game represents hurt", or as usual, "i just remembered i have something to do". He will avoid anything that regards me. Also i think he talks bad behind my back. And when he hits me, he makes it look an accident when it really is not. Also i found out he was out with friends, and didn't bother to tell me anything. He even lied saying that he didn't. Also i don't trust him, his eyes have A sneaky look and they're untrustworthy. I also have the feeling that he tells my enemies stuff about me when he leaves after i give him a piece of information.That's the reason everything i tell him about me is a lie! What should i do?
Hey Danny,
I am sorry that I couldn't get with you on this comment! I really passionate about friendship myself! To answer your question, if you find yourself in a situation where he continues to lie on you, it's a great time to cut off that friendship. If he continues to lie in order to dodge you, it's an great indication that he doesn't want you at all, or don't want a close friendship! I really think that it's time to close that friendship, and find another friend who can treat you right and be more honest in the relationship! Also come visit my blog at self-help enrichment at http://enlightened32.blogspot.com/. I have a ton of information that can help you in aspects of relationship! Let's stay in contact there. Contact me on my blog! Thanks again for asking your question for concern!
@ Amanda Thanks for comment so much
@Pearlgulte thanks so much!
haha :) theres n rea fiends
thank you so much for visualisng my blind eye.Your a true blessing.
Thank u sooooo much ....i realised after this that i cnsiderd a frnd who was fake all the tym
So i realized my best friend is a True Bestie , maybe im over sensitive about some things she jokes and say about me to other people in my face. only time will tell whats the truth
i guess my thought to be true friend is not... as she went and talked about me behind my back. and completely ignores me when i try and make an effort to make her happy... sorry Jacintha but i guess you are not my true friend but my fake.. : (
Recent events brings me to this article.
I was going to graduate along with my friends,however,I failed an important module which cannot be pushed forward to make me graduate on time,thus,I have to graduate 1 semester after my friends.
My friends wished me the best and says they will be visit me when they are free during my semester.
Well,what happened was that,there was no visits,no calls or sms.Not even on graduation day in which the ceremony is held just 3 blocks away from my school.
So much for their flamboyant words,just plain disappointment with the friends and classmates of a few years.
Sometimes I find that I can be a real friend to a fake friend for years, and then suddenly realize that the fake friend is just a "taker". Then the friendship dies quickly.
I agree i make friends but they were nt stay with me they dnt understood me i feel lonely when nobody make me true friendship with me either girl or a boy i have a problem dat i make few friends as boy .can you suggest me what should i do
What does it say when your best friend moves 3 times without telling and it just slips out through random convo.
it means, they need attention badly. nothing personal against you from him/her.
I agree with you. But now after having so much of fake friends I am really confuse what to do and how to do? To be honest i am tried now and I really miss my past days of my school.....they were my best days. And now in my class i came to that alwas fake. But its good that now I saw their reality. And by reading your thoughts in future I hope I will be able to recognized a true and fake friends.
Hieeeee........actualy itz nt a comment m rly dispersed abt my frndships.......nd i don no wer 4m i wil get ne hlp....whenever i watch my school videos and photos automatically tears comes out from my eyes......my last 5 months in my school i spend alone without any friends..my friends whom i thought were my best friends they doubts on me after spending so many years they don't recognized me......
Dreamer32 the article has been very helpful. I have had a friend for over 30 years who we consider a BFF but there are times here lately I don't feel the closeness. Lately she does not call me and I don'[t call her.However she did call when she needed something we work very close together in the church. What is going on. Not sure if were to go with this several things have happened over the years and lately she has made it a point not too include me in a few social events. or respond whenever I text too see if she would like too do something. I have even approached her about something that made me feel hurt. HELP
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My friend well exfriend anyway was not true and never wiil be she hurt me she told my secrets,personal buisness and most hurtfull my crushes and fears she contacted me not to long ago but how can i forgive Her..........HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!*sigh* great suggestions anyway
look i love what you're trying to say.... it is something that most people struggle with i am one who has been taken advantage of several times... but i think you're thinking rainbows too much... a true friend yes has some of those qualities but i disagree with some of your points.... a true friend will tell you the truth no matter what... they wont make you feel rainbow and sunshines all the time and make you feel great 247... i've had friends like that who ended up just being someone who was not true and hurt me.... yes friends dont spread gossip about you... yes a true friend is always there when you need them...yes a true friend wants to be a blessing in your life... but most of all they want to be family... sometimes we have to understand that people make mistakes... a true friend will above anything else will admit they were wrong when they hurt you and say they love you .... i think when they do it twice then they aren't but one who is willing to put their pride aside is one worth keeping...
After reading this, I realized I don't have a single true friend. Even some of the people who I though were my best friends turned out to be fake. I'm starting to hate life. Society is screwed. And I'm being affected. And I'm only 14.
i have a so called friend ... we stayed together the whole summer && now we dont even talk no more ... over stuff in the streets she said she was droppin sum friends n that friend was me :( idk wat to do ... its killin me inside wat should i do ? ... i wanna kill myself !!!!!!!!!!! im only 15
Thanks! i'm doing my assignment and this helped! plus I'm not afraid to call my bestie now! :)
@Shyann Holt
hi, I think u should talk to her and ask her whats up and if she blows u off, Shes not a true friend.
gud luck,
Thank you so much! i had a feind who is exacly what you said i am 13 and she blows me off all the time i am just gona say we shouldent be freinds anymore....thank again this really helped
Of all the things that I know.. I know bout frnds the most.. I've been hurt so many times that I learnt what true frnds r the hard way... I cannot agree more wid wt uve said
thanks for ever thing im 17 an most people treat me really bad im going to tell them that we cant be friends any more thanks this really worked
its true dat nt ol ur frnds wil b true and even if there hapens u get fake ones who dnt appreciate who uv been in their lives let them b taught alesson by mother nature. let ur fake frnds knw dat u love n care 4them b4 breakng up wth them. i tld my fake frnds wat ido feel wen they treat me like adnt exist n i ws hoping they wil pologies bt no they didnt n dats hw i accept da fact dat they dnt av any concious at ol. am far africa in kenya n il b 26yrs on 31st dis mnth am lookng 4true frnds ready 2share wth me da meaning of atrue frndshp wth Gods love n pls no more fakE frnds. My number is +254734373707. thank u 4sharing ths article wth many.
its true dat nt ol ur frnds wil b true and even if there hapens u get fake ones who dnt appreciate who uv been in their lives let them b taught alesson by mother nature. let ur fake frnds knw dat u love n care 4them b4 breakng up wth them. i tld my fake frnds wat ido feel wen they treat me like adnt exist n i ws hoping they wil pologies bt no they didnt n dats hw i accept da fact dat they dnt av any concious at ol. am far africa in kenya n il b 26yrs on 31st dis mnth am lookng 4true frnds ready 2share wth me da meaning of atrue frndshp wth Gods love n pls no more fakE frnds. My number is +254734373707. thank u 4sharing ths article wth many.
Be careful who u trust. so many people will lead you to belive that your true friends. but in time their true colours will show. these situations you need to fuck up & den u realise who ur true friends are. true.
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Hi dreamer,
Great statement, could u help me? I have a "friend" who always responds to my texts, but has lied to me about not being able to hang out with me, he is also never rude, though he nver wants to be my partner in class unless i ask him.
Is he a real friend?
Wonderful Article , I Feel I learned something today Thank you so much
This has made me truly believe who my friends are and are not ! Thank u
I have a friend who just told me she likes a guy even tho she has liked him 4 a while nd i always said they should go out. I a the last 2 noe whn i update her weekly. Shes a hidden bych, but i not the only one to say it. She is one of my only friends left in this school. The rest are all around the US. The last thing that happened wuz that she said we were fighting so she didnt tell me even tho we werent fighting. Also she didnt want me to judge her. Then i said that y wuld i judge her? She apologized b4 i asked the question but what should i do?
thank you soo much! know i see that my best friend is not really my best friend at all!!!
Completely agree
Hey Zack! I know that it's rough finding out folks who are your best friends and they turn out to be fakes! To me, I was hurt emotionally after so many cases, but it was a blessing because their true colors got revealed! and it taught me the next time I run into a person who wants to be my friend, it doesn't take as long to see!don't hate your life The thing
for you! The thing that I can say that focus your mind on a true friend in life, and what you want that true friend to be like! I do this, even though it's not happened, but I have felt so much better!
Pb200, no this person doesn't fall in the category of a real friend at all! This person qualifies in the category of an aquantanice! It's proven because this person's actions doesn't show no interest in developing a friendship with you! I say pursue other folks who might be intersted in wanting to start a true friendship!
You are so welcome!
Hey shaynn, I am so sorry! Don't give up yourself! Even though I have not experienced a similiar situation like yours! Even though I haven't recieved the one and true friend yet, but it's something that I am focusing on right now!Before then, it killed me inside, and was so unhappy! Focus on your real friend, and picture you and that friend being together. laughing together, and good times! you will feel much better inside,
dude, I agree because I went through that same thing! some people are down right takers, but not knowing that takers at the end will get back what they have done to others!
i agree ,,,,,,,, coz i went through that same thing .... but true frend always blessing for that person
I can dig it! I agree. I was nieve and got fooled!
i agree with this as fake friend a make a laugh but by giving them another chance they would say sorry!yaar i will not do it again but within 1 or 2 days he started saying what he says about him at the very first time.so we should really abuse such friends and knowing the fact that one who will make a laugh of his friend one day his life woula make on him/her.
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MissLich 2 years ago
I enjoyed this a lot and can really agree. I can see where we both share the same insight into friendships. Thanks for sharing!